You want a marriage ceremony worthy of the profound love you’ve built, but you don’t know how to put it into words.
No formulas. No cookie-cutter templates. No more time staring at a blank Word doc.
I’ve got you covered.
I partner with couples to write, design and facilitate heart-centered, authentic and joyous wedding ceremonies that capture the divine magic of your unique love story.
My work puts words to the ineffable bond you share, and engages your community to honor you and the profound step you’re taking toward love and goodness. Go to bed on your wedding night feeling utterly seen, held, and most importantly, so very proud.
Work with me as your ceremony designer and officiant, and you’ll receive:
A bespoke wedding ceremony script with two rounds of edits — a touchstone during the intensity of wedding planning and beyond!
In-depth Love Story Questionnaire for reflection and alignment
My signature Ecstatic Ceremonies Vow Writing Guide
Support obtaining your legal marriage license
Marriage license completion and filing on your behalf
Onsite coordination with your vendor team: get ready to watch us work our magic!
1-hour virtual rehearsal before your day
Unlimited number of guests
Day-Of travel within 60 miles round trip of my home in Portland, OR (additional travel fees may apply)
Validation, witnessing, and lifting up of your love – by me, and in turn, your community
A grounded, guiding anchor to stand with you in front of your friends and family so you can be fully present when you say “I do.”
Pricing from $1,350-$2,000*
*Ecstatic Ceremonies is a proudly queer-and woman-owned business. Equity pricing is available on request. Read more about my sliding scale here.
It’s my mission and my superpower as an officiant is to make sure you’re fully present and embodied on your wedding day.
Bring me on to your wedding day team as your officiant, and you can rest easy: those very first moments of your big day will be as memorable, sacred and reflective of your partnership as you’ve always hoped.
Here’s how this whole thing works:
Step 1:
Free consultation (virtual) — Sign up here!
I’d love to meet you! Let’s sit down for a virtual meet and greet where I learn about your wedding day vision, the challenges you’re facing in your ceremony design, and how I can best support you. I’ll share what it’s like to work with me, and start to dream with you about what this celebration could look like. I LOVE meeting new couples! Sign up for a consultation here, no strings attached!
Step 2:
Questionnaire (virtual)
I’ll send you my in-depth and super fun Love Story Questionnaire, which you’ll fill out with your partner. This begins the alignment process for you and your partner, brings shape to your ceremony vision, and gives me some clues into the kind of experience we’ll be co-creating.
Step 3:
Love Story Exploration Session (in-person)
This is where the real fun starts! I travel to your home where I can hug you in person and lead you through my signature Relationship Timeline activity. You use my prompts to take me on a journey through every stage of your partnership, and tap into your story on an energetic level. There will be snacks, laughs, and a few special surprises for you, too! Many couples say this is the most meaningful part of the process!
Step 4:
I write your ceremony (and you can relax)!
You focus on the rest of your wedding prep while I channel your love story and craft a fully personalized ceremony that puts it at the center. No templates, no formulas, just your unique story. In three weeks, I’ll send you my highly detailed draft (complete with timestamps, blocking, speakers’ names, etc.) and we’ll work together to make any necessary tweaks. Once it’s exactly how you want it, I’ll share it with your coordinator so everyone is on the same page. For many couples, this ceremony becomes their wedding and relationship north star – a grounding touchpoint in the intensity of wedding planning and early marriage.
Step 5:
On your wedding day:
I’ll arrive early to make sure all ceremony materials are in place and everyone involved is briefed and ready to go. I’ll stay in contact with your wedding planner (if you have one), and check in with you to share hugs, support, and grounded energy before the ceremony begins. And then, I’ll get you wed!
FAQ
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Yes! Find info about my pricing philosophy on my pricing page.
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Yes! You’ll need to obtain your license from the county in which you’re getting married, but once you have it, I’ll be there to help you make sure all the details are in place, everything is filled out properly, and it’s submitted correctly. Long story short: I’ll hold your hand as much as you need through this piece (it can be confusing!).
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As your officiant, it’s my job to write your ceremony, support you in obtaining and filing your marriage license, and facilitate your ceremony on your wedding day. When the big day arrives, I’ll be at the venue early to make sure everything is in place, coordinate with your planner, mic check with your DJ, and offer any kind of support you need (see more details above).
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Absolutely! I reach out early and often to make sure coordinators are in the loop about the ceremony we’ve put together. You can rest assured knowing everyone will be on the same page and there will be no surprises on the big day.
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3-4 months before your wedding date is a great time to reach out to me!
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Absolutely not. My couples come to me with all sorts of comfort levels around writing, storytelling and articulating their feelings. It’s my job to ask the right questions and uncover the divine stories within your partnership. Trust me, you’ll be surprised at how much comes up!
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Please just come as you are. Do whatever you need to do to relax into this process and remain open. The most important thing is that you’re present. I’ll take it from there.
